Malaysian ustazah advocates marital rape and prostitution-like behavior to please husbands

Bride with pink bouquet and lace dress hold hands with groom. Original public domain image from Wikimedia Commons
Bride with pink bouquet and lace dress hold hands with groom. Original public domain image from Wikimedia Commons

“How far would you go to please your husband [sexually]? Would you put in lesser effort than a prostitute?” 

If that is the kind of marital advice you are receiving from your Telegram support group, best to reconsider your membership.

Fatin Pauzi, a Malaysian ustazah (female religious teacher) has been slammed for disseminating controversial advice to married couples through Telegram. 

Her ‘advice’ has come under public scrutiny and raised concerns among religious authorities, triggering a call for intervention.

Promoting rape and violence 

According to a report in Harian Metro, the self-proclaimed ustazah has been offering highly contentious guidance to couples seeking to enhance their married life. 

Shockingly, some of her suggestions include endorsing marital rape and advocating for women to serve their husbands in a manner akin to prostitutes. 

Furthermore, men were allegedly encouraged to resort to physical violence if their wives were unwilling or failed to fulfill their desires.

The Malaysian daily newspaper also disclosed that the ‘ustazah’ has amassed a following of over 24,000 individuals. 

Additionally, it was revealed that another Telegram group, which also takes an extremist stance on marital advice, requires interested participants to pay a membership fee.

Following these revelations, numerous religious figures have called upon the government to take action against the woman and the Telegram group. 

Dr. Zamihan Mat Zin, the President of the Association of Ahli Sunnah Wal Jamaah Malaysia (Aswaja), expressed his concerns to Harian Metro, asserting that the group had deceitfully employed Islam to propagate deviant teachings about women and marriage. 

He emphasized that promoting physical and sexual abuse under the guise of obedience stands in stark contradiction to the true principles of Islam. 

Dr. Zamihan urged the State Islamic Religious Department (JAIN) to launch an immediate investigation, summoning the woman and the group’s administrators to put an end to these teachings at their inception.

Same old bad advice

This is not the first time dubious marriage advice for women has caused outrage in Malaysia. 

In 2011, the Obedient Wives Club was set up with the aim to teach women how to please their husbands in order to prevent them from straying or misbehaving.

Surprisingly, the behaving-like-a-prostitute narrative was also a piece of common advice taught to members of that group. 

The club was condemned by many for being demeaning to women and the government eventually banned the club’s sex manual for fear it could cause “religious confusion”.

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