Gay couple gets 80 lashes for sharia-banned sex in conservative Aceh province

A gay couple was publicly whipped in Indonesia’s conservative Aceh province Friday, despite an earlier pledge by officials to stop the punishment after it drew international criticism. The two men were flogged more than 80 times each for having gay sex, which is outlawed under local Islamic law, as a jeering crowd hurled abuse at ...

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Katy Perry | Flamenco Night | Red Nose Mini-Concert | Rp 99k free flow | Cool Things To Do in Jakarta This Weekend (April 13-15)

Katy Perry | Flamenco Night | Red Nose Mini-Concert | Rp 99k free flow | Cool Things To Do in Jakarta This Weekend (April 13-15)

What are you doing this weekend?

Indonesian talk show sanctioned for discussion of ‘transgender issues’ by broadcasting commission

Indonesian talk show sanctioned for discussion of ‘transgender issues’ by broadcasting commission

Yesterday, the Indonesian Broadcasting Commission (KPI) announced that it was sanctioning a TV talk show called “Brownies Tonight” for episodes aired last week that contain...

Indonesian transwoman Dinda Syarif wins best national costume at Miss International Queen

Indonesian transwoman Dinda Syarif wins best national costume at Miss International Queen

Congrats to Dinda on her big win!

Jakarta satellite city of Depok deploying anti-LGBT task force

Jakarta satellite city of Depok deploying anti-LGBT task force

"Religion has agreed that LGBT acts are forbidden, so legally we will overcome this problem so that it will not spread."

Valentine’s Nay: Places in Indonesia where you can’t celebrate the day of romance this year

Valentine’s Nay: Places in Indonesia where you can’t celebrate the day of romance this year

We’ve rounded up all the places in Indonesia where it might be dangerous for you to buy roses and chocolates on Feb. 14.

Aceh regent issues circular banning transgender women from working in salons

Aceh regent issues circular banning transgender women from working in salons

As if forcing masculinity on transgender women wasn’t humiliating enough.

Indonesia pushes for gay, pre-marital sex ban

Indonesia pushes for gay, pre-marital sex ban

Indonesia is pushing to clamp down on gay and pre-marital sex as part of a sweeping criminal law overhaul that critics blame on a wave of religious fundamentalism sweeping across...

87.6% of Indonesians see LGBT as a threat, but slim majority say they deserve right to life and protection: survey

87.6% of Indonesians see LGBT as a threat, but slim majority say they deserve right to life and protection: survey

Indonesia once again seems to be experiencing a moral panic about LGBT rights, much as it did in 2016 when national political and religious leaders engaged in disturbing displays...

Indonesia’s IT Ministry asking Google to block Blued and other LGBT networking apps

Indonesia’s IT Ministry asking Google to block Blued and other LGBT networking apps

Indonesia’s IT Ministry says it has filed a request to Google to block around 70 LGBT social networking apps from being available to download in the country through the Google...


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Coconuts Jakarta Love & Dating

Sexuality remains a mostly taboo topic in Indonesia, and even dating has its conservative detractors here (who insist Indonesians should instead just get married as young as possible in order to avoid “sin”). But just because many people here don’t want to talk about it, doesn’t mean that sexuality and dating aren’t a huge part of life here. Jakarta is relatively more liberal about these issues than most other Indonesian cities, and dating is a pretty normal part of life for most young people in the capital, with dating apps like Tinder being quite popular. But sex before marriage is still considered a major moral sin by many in the capital - even Indonesian women’s magazines that promise tips for better sex on their covers always offer their advice in the context of married couples. We hope to demystify some of these issues by writing about sex and dating in a way that is honest and true to people’s experiences without the judgements or hang-ups that typically characterize the Indonesian mainstream media’s treatment of those topics. We are open-minded but believe strongly that people should have total autonomy over their own bodies, that people should be treated the same no matter their sexual orientation, and that sex is not an inherently good or bad thing but a complex topic that should be treated as such.