There’s nothing scarier than to leave someone or be left on read in today’s digital age. A dating app’s survey says female millennials are the prime culprits.
Singapore’s dating pool is guilty of brutally ghosting others, according to a survey by women-forward dating app Bumble. The online survey was conducted in August and questioned 1,001 of the city-state’s Gen Zs and millennials.
Its statistics are ghastly. Slightly more than half (57%) of respondents said they have ghosted someone and 61% have been ghosted before. A good majority (73%) said they were ghosted just after a few text exchanges. 🙁
More than half of male and female respondents said the main reason was the lack of connection and women are more likely to ghost than men when someone turns them off.
Reasons to justify the frowned-upon act include: not feeling a connection (56%), being busy (43%) and avoiding the awkwardness of ceasing the relationship (37%).
Comparing generationally, 69% of Gen Zs think ghosting is “inappropriate” and 20% of them think it’s a “normal phenomenon” as compared to 38% of millennials.
More than half of the older generation (60%) are more likely than Gen Zs (51%) to ghost someone due to a lack of connection.
Even so, 65% of all respondents think it’s not right to ghost when ending relationships.
The ghostees said they become discouraged (42%), less confident (38%) and wary (34%) of dating as a result. This particularly punctures the confidence of men (44%) more than women (30%).
But don’t let this stop you from dating around as there are plenty of non-ghosting fish in the sea, the app, who is “firmly against” ghosting, says.
“[Having open and honest conversations] may be uncomfortable but this momentary discomfort is an act of kindness and respect and will allow the person to receive closure to move on,” Bumble’s Communications Director Lucille McCart said in a news release.
“If you have ever been ghosted and it has made you feel disheartened, move forward with the knowledge that they aren’t the right match for you – there are plenty more people on Bumble who would love the chance to get to know you!” she added.
Bumble listed after-care tips to get back on the grind.
Firstly, let all the emotions in and allow yourself to feel everything and not fight the disappointment, confusion, and sadness. This will help process the situation better and get over the bummer more quickly.
Next, Bumble says to stop torturing yourself over it as it’s not your fault that you got ghosted and that you are not responsible for anyone else’s actions.
Finally, treat yourself by doing something for yourself to get through the mini setback and get swiping again.
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