If you’ve been in Singapore long enough, you probably would’ve heard a quip or two about our low birth rate, and even the dwindling marriage rate. Could it be that love is dying out for Singaporeans? Say it ain’t so! Of course, a signed ROM cert may not be the ultimate testament of true love for every couple. Whether you’d personally consider marriage and having kids as essential for you and your beloved, they’ve been cited as potential reasons for a relationship fizzling out, but that doesn’t always have to be the case. There’s a whole bunch of ways to constantly remind your better half that life is indeed better with them in it.
The honeymoon period doesn’t ever need to end in a relationship — it’s all about putting in the effort to keep on learning about each other as you both grow as individuals. It doesn’t always have to be about grand gestures either — like oh, we don’t know, getting an entire motorcade for a motorcycle themed proposal? In fact, we’re here to push the rhetoric that it’s all about the little gestures that keep a relationship fresh.
We’ve rounded up some simple tips and tricks to keep the love alive, well into the forever and always you’ve promised each other. This article is brought to you by an adult toy store so you know there’s gonna be some interesting suggestions coming up — guess you’ll just have to read on!
Speak their language
Love language, that is. You might already be familiar with the five tenets of this concept coined by relationship counselor Gary Chapman, namely: acts of service, quality time, words of affirmation, physical touch and receiving gifts.
Apparently everyone functions differently in a relationship, but each person has a primary love language they relate to more than the others. Sure, it isn’t exactly backed by scientific research, and there’s the possibility of having more than one love language — but couples have found love languages to be a great starting point in understanding how their significant others wish to be loved.
Keep catching up with them
Life can get really fast-paced, but you gotta make sure you don’t leave your partner behind in the sprint through it. In fact, if you aren’t already tired of the racing analogies, we’ve got another — remember, it’s them that’ll spur you on in the long run, so they’ll always be worth it.
It could be as simple as putting up a shared calendar (or Google Calendar, for the tech-forward couple) of each others’ important events on the fridge so you’re always in the loop. More importantly, you’ll never miss an anniversary ever again.
Date nights don’t have to be dated
Relationship experts tout recurring date nights as a surefire way to keep the romance alive. The key here is to remind each other why you fell in love in the first place, and feeling those butterflies in your stomach from when you started dating. Make it a point to dress up and look good for each other.
Let it all out
Mad at each other? Instead of taking it out on your partner, let it out in a healthy manner so you can go back to being madly in love. Why not visit a batting cage or a rage room, where you’ll get to take a crowbar to some unsuspecting fragile objects and smash your anger to smithereens. Make a quick stop after work or even better, bring your partner for a smashing good time together.
Make it a point to release any pent-up anger you might have. Hopefully it wasn’t directed at each other, but if it was — hit it out of the park.
Find somewhere to be alone together
It’s hard not to feel the effects of the constantly increasing population in Singapore — but don’t let it cramp your style. We definitely understand that having space is vital to a relationship, even if some might not.
Rejuvenate your relationship by whisking your beloved away to a more secluded spot just outside Singapore. If you’ve already done the rounds on Pulau Ubin and Coney Island, why not try the lesser known Sisters’ Islands or Lazarus Island?
Don’t leave your partner to their own devices
We know it’s tempting to just plop on the couch after a long day at work and put on a mindless television show. As titillating as that season of Euphoria is, make it a point to switch off the electronics for an hour and tune in to your partner instead. We guarantee it’ll be more satisfying than any show on TV right now.
It could be as simple as catching up on the day you’ve had individually while you’re cuddled together in a heap. Who knows, it might even lead to other activities that involve the two of you getting physically closer. Wink wink.
What we’re trying to say is — turn off the Netflix, and maybe get each other turned on instead in a Netflix and chill sesh.
Toy around with the idea of toys
And you know we’re not talking about anything you can get at a Toys ‘R’ Us. Why not shake things up a little and surprise your partner with your wild side? Taking on new experiences together only makes the relationship stronger, and it’s true in the bedroom too.
Whether you’re a beginner or if you’ve got lots of experience under your (garter) belt, there’s definitely something for everyone. Let your boo choose a sexy outfit for you — or you, for them and get all 50 shades with it for a truly colorful sex life.
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